This morning I woke up, and despite having gained an hour with the time change, felt like absolute garbage. My chest hurts and it feels like someone is constantly sitting on it, my whole body aches, and I feel the weight of exhaustion burdening each of my limbs. (Sorry, was that a tad dramatic? I’m not dying, I just have a chest cold and I haven’t been sleeping.) On top of that, I’m frustrated because I feel like I’m getting behind on all my “to-do’s” because I’ve been under the weather. I don’t know about you, but there are few things more frustrating for me than not meeting my own standards.
Full disclosure, I allowed myself a bit to really feel the awfulness of it all while moping and throwing myself a pity party for one…. aaaaand then I knew I had to choose to reset, because, honestly, I think it’s important to acknowledge how I’m feeling and that it’s okay to feel like this is making things hard, but it doesn’t help myself or anyone else to stay in that place.
So I got up, still made an enjoyable Sunday breakfast for myself (gluten-free french toast and coffee, in case you’re wondering!) and then called my mom, because those are all things that make me happy and help me put things back in perspective.
I guess what I’m saying is, allow yourself the grace to “embrace the suck”, as Brené Brown says, and feel your feelings. If you’re finding things to be more trying than usual, it’s totally okay to acknowledge that, and even communicate it to others. I bet they have had seasons that felt the same.
And then move forward. Make yourself the tea or coffee that warms your soul right up, from the inside out. Do something pleasurable and find the small joys – make a favourite breakfast, play a song that lights you up (even while doing all the sucky things you have to get through), or read/listen to a chapter of a good book. Anything that makes you feel like you again, in a good way, and then connect with someone who sees you. Even if you don’t actually discuss how you’re feeling explicitly, feeling seen and heard is a great way to shift energy and perspective – honestly, I feel like connection and belonging should be prescribed way more than most medications. For me, that was my mom this morning but it could also have been my sister or one of my friends. Just reach out. I promise it will help.
With love and gratitude,